today if you are in a relationship that is not right for you, don't wrestle with your feeling or make excuses for whats going on. iam not talking about a marriage relationship; am talking about any relationship that is dragging you down and causing you to fall short of what you were intended to be. are there influences in your life that you know are not right ? are you spending too much time with people who are putting your destiny @ danger ? if your seeing red flags but you're afraid to let go because you don't want to be alone, remember , god will never leave you alone; you are too important to him . when one door closes ( in a relationship or anything ) god will open a bigger and better door for you. he may be trying to stir you out of a situation that is no good for you. even if you are thinking of a friend who walked out of your life , realize that maybe gods helping you . he may have closed that door so you couldn't go back, preventing you from going in the wrong direction. god has such a great desire for you to reach your full potential. be willing to recognize if there is something wrong in your life and have the courage to let it go and move on. you'll also develop a new perspective on what you want and deserve , being open to the new.. the bigger and better plans for you in the area of relationships... trust god today , he wants you to have healthy /honest and strong relationships . so, you can live life at your best and as a whole person. ....from the book " love your life " a word from victoria osteen

if you want your relationships to thrive , you must invest in them. by being a giver rather than a taker . everywhere you go, strive to make relational deposits into peoples lives, encouraging them , building them up, and helping them to feel better about them selves. granted , it's not always easy. some people are difficult to be around they tend to draw the life right outta you. they're not bad people; they just drain you. they always seem to have a problem , or some major crisis that they are convinced requires your help to solve or they just want to bitch! they talk all the time , so much you can't get a word in edgewise. by the time the conversation done, you feel as though your emotional energy is gone.difficult people don't make positive deposits; they are to busy making withdrawals. please, don't misunderstand me. it's okay to some days be down and discouraged. everybody has that right. but if your like that all the time , then there's a problem. your not going to have good friendships or good family relationships if your always draining the emotional reserves out of people. i like to think of my relationships as "emotional bank accounts"i have an account with everyone i come in contact with friends / family / even those i meet in passing... everytime i interact with them am either making a deposit or withdrawal. Now, you ask me "how joel, can i make a deposit ? it's as simple as taking the time to walk up to someone and shake there hand " how are you ".... " good morning "... "have a blessed day".... just the simple fact that you went out of your way to make him or her feel important made a deposit into that account. your act of kindness built respect and trust. you can make your deposit's by simply smiling at people / acknowledging them / being friendly / being pleasant in ordinary circumstances..... joel oslen.... i myself also try to quietly and silently salute the divine spark which is in everyone....and occasionally i ' ve been known to whisper " i love you " " have a blessed day" or "you look great"