if your serious about being well, you can't lie around feeling sorry for yourself. don't waste another mintue trying to figure out why certain bad things happened to you or loved ones. you may never know the answer. but don't use that as an excuse to wallow in self pity. leave it alone get up, and move on with your life. trust god & accept the fact that there will be some unanswered questions. each of us should have what i call an " i don't understand it " file. when something comes up for which you have no reasonable answer. instead of dwelling on the " why " simply place it in the file and don't become bitter. trust /get up / walk out of any emotional bondage in which you have been living in & step into the great future he has for you .quite your heart and take this in if you will stay in an atitude of faith , victory , sucess , good health...he has promissed that he will turn those emotional hurts around . he'll use them to your advantage and you will come out better than you would have had.... a word from joel osteen