it 's vital that you accept yourself and learn to be happy with who god made you to be. if you want to truly enjoy your life, you must be @ peace with yourself. many people constantly feel badly about themselves. they are overly critical/living with all sorts of self - imposed guilt & condemnation ( could be me) no wonder they're not happy; they have a war going on inside . and if you can't get along with yourself , you will never get along with others. the place to start is by being happy with who god created you to be. you may not be perfect... nobody is !! sure, you've got some flaws.... we all do !!!everyone has weaknesses. even great men and women have made mistakes. they all had shortcomings, but that didn't stop the power that regiens from loving them / blessing them and using them to accomplish great deeds. to be truly free, you must have a healthy respect for yourself in spite of your " imperfections."don't be so hard on yourself, there may be somethings you are not happy about ; some habit's that you need to break. remember , your higher powers not finished with you yet , your a work in progress and he's changing you for the better ...a word from joel osteen